I used to strive for good days.
When I was younger, it took simple things.
Food and safety for my sister and I.
Good education so I could have a better life.
Become employable and be a qualified professional.
I thought, at that time, all my problems would go away if I could make this happen.
So I made decisions, every day, aligned with making myself a ‘better’ life.
Thankfully, over the years, I made more good decisions than bad.
And I solved problem after problem so that I earned ‘good’ days.
But new problems came up.
I seemed to be working a lot and didn’t seem to have a lot of time for my family or myself.
I wanted more than to make a living; I wanted an extraordinary life.
Which created new problems for me to solve.
- How do I earn more income?
- Have more free time?
- How do I become and stay healthy?
- Have more time with my family?
I decided to solve these problems.
To solve them, I looked for ways to create a valuable consulting craft.
And I built myself an independent consulting business allowing me to live an extraordinary life.
But not every day is extraordinary.
I have problems come up that taint the day.
What could I do so my extraordinary life, could be an everyday occurrence?
Thankfully, I decided to meet Tony Robbins.
Tony Robbins is an American author, entrepreneur, philanthropist and life coach.
And he’s been helping people since he was 17 working under the well known Jim Rohn.
I first came across Tony Robbins early in my professional career when I was struggling with my mother’s latest ‘fall off the wagon’, her addiction to alcohol.
Tony Robbin’s story was shared at a conference I was attending.
I related to his early years and his passion for changing his life and the lives of others for the better.
Since then, I have often seen him live and reference his materials, quotes, podcast, regularly.
He has had a considerable influence on my ability to make myself an extraordinary life.
And though I have seen Tony Robbins in person several times, I am grateful for the recent opportunity to learn from him, directly.
To look him in the eye, shake his hand, have him acknowledge me, with his full attention, and learn as much as I could in our time together.
He took my hand, gave me a huge hug and everything he shared that day, caught root – deep.
And what caught root was I can decide to make every day extraordinary.
I make decisions all the time.
But I don’t have extraordinary days, every day.
And while Tony Robbins was speaking, it became clear to me.
I need to look at my problems and decisions differently.
I need to include a new focus.
You see, usually, I focus on the big problem, the big choices, the big decisions and goals.
The big moments.
But to live an extraordinary day, every day, requires a new focus.
I will have to add a new dimension if I want to have extraordinary days, every day.
And I want this so much; I can taste it.
Would you like to know what I learned from Tony Robbins directly to make every day extraordinary?
It’s All About the Choices We Decide To Make, In the Moment
Our decisions can change our lives.
I have done this over and over again.
For every problem I had, I would find the available choices and make the best decision I could.
But just to be clear…
“A great extraordinary life doesn’t come without problems.”
– Tony Robbins
Instead, it’s how we respond to ‘said’ problems is what empowers us to have extraordinary lives.
For every big problem I had, I choose not to see it that way.
- When I wanted to transition my career, I saw it as a challenge.
- When I aspired to earn more income, I budgeted for and found various coaches to help me.
- When I craved to have my own business, I sought out all the ways I could do it with what I had.
And then I focused and took purposeful action.
“Never wish life were easier, wish that you were better.”
– Jim Rohn
As a result, I have built an extraordinary life.
But now I want to make every day extraordinary.
By seeing the choices, I can make in a moment that ‘feels’ uncomfortable, has negative tension or can be perceived as a problem.
And creating an entirely different perception or meaning at that moment.
Like all the significant ‘problems’ in my adventure of creating an extraordinary life:
- I focused,
- found my choices,
- made decisions and goals, and
- followed through with action.
The difference now is, I will do this on a much smaller scale.
I need to practice on focusing on the moment of a problem, or tension, or stress and make 3 key decisions:
Key Decision 1: Choose what I will focus on.
Will I choose to focus on what I have, what I could have?
Will I choose to focus on what is ‘lost’, ‘less’ than what I hoped for, or will ‘never’ happen?
At the moment, I chose to perceive it in the present, on what I have, and what I am aspiring towards.
Key Decision 2: I can choose how to interpret the moment.
Will I choose to interpret the moment as positive, giving, empowering, or helping?
Will I choose to interpret the moment as negative, taking, blaming, or hurting?
At the moment, I choose to perceive it as positive, giving, empowering, and helping.
Key Decision 3: I can choose what I will do about it.
Will I choose to respond and take action in a positive, giving, empowering or helping way?
Will I choose to respond and take action in a negative, taking, blaming, or hurting way?
At the moment, I choose to take positive, giving, empowering, helpful action.
“Know that just one moment of joy is a sign of better things to come.”
– Abraham Hicks
At this point, you are likely asking the same question I did.
What about those awful days?
How can I use these 3 decisions to make them, instead, extraordinary?
“By killing the ‘monster’ while it’s small.”
– Tony Robbins
The ‘monstrous’ awful day starts with a moment.
And by being mindful of the moment and deciding to make that first key decision is the first step.
I won’t be perfect at it right from the beginning.
I can’t expect that.
It will take practice. One small moment after another.
Over time, I will have more extraordinary moments than not.
And with more practice, I will have more extraordinary days than not.
Like so many other success habits, it will come easier over time.
Till it’s second nature.
“Knowledge is of no value unless you put it into practice.”
– Anton Chekhov
I loved hearing from Tony Robbins that I can decide to make every day, extraordinary.
That I can decide to do so, moment by moment, day by day.
And then I will live an extraordinary day, every day.
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Thanks for reading!
Founder and President
Stand & Deliver Inc.